It’s hard to do, but much of the time, when facing crisis situations, we should set aside the tactical swagger and instead engage through the ancient Daoist (Taoist) concept of wuwei – non-doing or non-action.
Perhaps it’s better thought of as the “action of non-action.”
Too “Zenny” for you?
I hope not, because often the more we can do by “not doing,” the better…
From the defensive standpoint, this could mean having enough awareness of situation, circumstances, and surroundings that we have an inkling something is “up” before its right up on us.
Say spying a pair of sketchy dudes further down the block that seem be paying you inordinate attention, or noticing that panhandler who seems to be “on something” at the entrance to the Safeway when you pulled into the lot – and avoiding any issue by not dealing with it to begin with – by turning around or crossing the street in the first case, or going through a separate entrance in the second.
“What??” Some might bristle… I have a RIGHT to walk in this world, to go down the street or into the store, unmolested and unintimidated!
“And if anyone tries anything I will make them wish they hadn’t!”
That’s fine and all, and going through life this way likely will mean one will surely need self defense skills. Too often, we seem to concentrate our training more on the Action part. Tactical thinking – and common sense – sometimes go out the window in the interest of a tough-talking self-righteous mentality that is usually more insecurity than personal security.
In the cop world we (derisively) refer to it as the “contempt of cop” mentality: “I am the PO-lice! I am the boss here. When I say jump you do it and anything less is Obstructing!”
This is bad practice, and a bad habit to get into. When you start seeing these situations as some kind of proving ground, the creep in focus is complete, and you’ve missed the point altogether.
This is by no means “go along to get along.” It is not “hug-a-thug” nor is it conflict avoidance at all costs. It is simply choosing one’s battles, and between what should be let go, what we are willing to let go, and what we know we can’t let go.
Non-action requires confidence. In one’s own capabilities, so that there is no need to “prove” anything; and in our decision making, so that we can rest easy knowing that not acting was the right call.
It won’t always be, but then you won’t always know…
If you reasonably believe violence is imminent, you should act.
If not, non-action is often the best course. Of course, not acting could include lots of action – observing facts and circumstances, paying attention to description, and to cues that might cause action to become necessary, “standing by to stand by” so to speak…
Minding your business while simultaneously minding the situation.
This takes composure and self-assurance, and a lack of the need to prove oneself.